It's possible to be brave and do things you never thought were possible.
That's exactly what my work is all about.
I've always believed we should trust our gut and run in the direction of our dreams, but there used to be this peculiar disconnect between my (vivid) inner life and my actions. I was ambitious, but not always super motivated, if that makes sense.
And the weird thing was, it didn't even bother me that much. When the time is right, I will act! I told myself. But how do I know when the right time is? I would ponder. And what if I make a fool of myself? What if I don't have what it takes?
The fear of not getting 'it' right stopped me in my tracks. Not always. And not in every area of my life. But often enough to describe my inner and outer progress as glacial.
But then one day one of my teachers told me, 'You have to create a mind that works for you, not against you.'
I didn't know what that meant, but I knew I had to find out.
That was twenty years ago.
(Ehm, a teacher? What kind of teacher?
Right! Glad you asked. One of the most interesting things about me is that I spent over ten years living at a Tibetan Buddhist centre in California. There I studied with some of the greatest meditation masters of our times.
But what does that mean?
Am I all about mindfulness? Did I shave my head and only eat a grain of rice a day? Am I super woo-woo and critical of 'worldly' people?
No, no, and no!
I just found something that really works for me, and Buddhism will
always be one of the biggest parts of my life, and I think it's amazing.)
Training as a life-coach, I was able to weave together
my previous mind-training with tools from cognitive psychology, co-creation and neuroscience, and that's when the real fun began. I spent some excellent weeks, months, and years testing out every coaching tool, method, and technique I could get my hands on.
What a gift.
I've changed a great deal since then. I still have setbacks
and mini-tantrums, but I can honestly say that besides feeling more empowered and excited, my ongoing progress is as rewarding as it is fun.
Now I get to teach my clients the same set of brilliant tools,
and I watch in awe and admiration as they shed layers
of insecurity, overwhelm, people pleasing, and overthinking everything.
With sharpened focus they've set sails for higher earnings,
new job offers, more possibilities, and a greater sense
of purpose and belonging.
This stuff works, my friend.
So that's a little bit about me. I'm basically on mission to help people do big things, make a great living, and claim what they want.
(Check out my official bio here.
For a longer bio, click here.)
ABOUT INGER - SHORT BIO
Inger grew up on a small island off the coast of Stavanger, Norway. From an early age she was drawn to two things, books and nature. Learning and exploring.
As a private secretary she’s had the honour of serving under two Ambassadors, one CEO, and the previous right hand of the Dalai Lama. It was during this time the Norwegian Queen named Inger, ‘The one who always gets everything done for me.’
As a personal life coach, she has the pleasure of teaching smart and motivated people to let go of outdated programming so they can step into their true power and stop apologizing for what they want.
After dropping out of college, Inger spent ten years living at a Tibetan Buddhist centre in California. There she studied with some of the greatest spiritual masters of our times.
She once spent twelve months meditating on impermanence. Most winters were spent in solitary retreat. She also received extensive training in running and participating in retreats.
Inger now lives in the Cotswolds with her husband and their two cats. She's currently working on her third book.
If you're looking for a longer bio, keep reading.
LESSON NUMBER ONE
I was born with clubfeet, and told I would never be able to walk. Somehow my brain refused to accept that reality, and I stood up and began walking. Fourteen surgeries later, I'm now the proud owner of tiny feet that can run, walk, dance, and skip. This story illustrates my first lesson in personal success: Don't let other people's limiting beliefs about you hold you back. Listen to your inner wisdom.
DROPPING OUT OF COLLEGE
At age nineteen I dropped out of college and hopped on a plane to visit a friend who lived at a Tibetan Buddhist center in California. The plan was to stay for two months. I stayed for ten years. This taught me the benefit of being open and flexible. I had originally planned to become an archaeologist, but that turned out to be only one small part of my journey, not the destination. I now know our lives are so much bigger than our initial potential and original plans. This is true for everyone. Let the world surprise you. Out-rank yourself and run in the direction of what makes you happy.
THE ROAD LESS TRAVELED
During my time at the Buddhist center I got to study with some of the greatest meditation masters of our times. People came and went. Minds changed. Lives were transformed. Observing all these comings and goings, you didn't have to be enlightened to see that happiness had nothing to do with outer achievements. True happiness, like everything else, comes down to attitude and mindset.
Fast forward to 2008 and you find me in London working as the Private Secretary to the Ambassador of Norway. This shift was inspired by the need to try something new, and I promised myself to only apply for jobs that filled me with excitement--even if I didn't feel ready for them. Especially if I didn't feel ready. I was nervous as hell, but my plan paid off. Within the diplomatic walls of the Embassy I had the great honor of working with Scotland Yard, Buckingham Palace, the Norwegian Royal Household, war veterans, artists, diplomats, and the Norwegian Olympic Committee. This entire experience reminded me of the saying, 'You get in life what you have the courage to ask for.' Oprah said that.
FOLLOW THE LOVE
Upon leaving California my teacher gave me a beautiful book with the inscription: Follow the Love. That saying eventually led me to this work. I love watching smart, talented, fun, amazing people wake up to the miracle of their own achievements. You don't have to justify your calling, but you do have to pay attention and act on it. Don't worry so much about what other people think. This inhibits us. Respect yourself. Recognize what you have to offer.
OBSTACLES AND CHALLENGES
But listen, this work is not about quick fixes and fleeting success.
I've been heartbroken, broke, lost, and confused. We all have.
I've been stalked by a bear, I nearly drowned, and I've watched loved ones die. You've had your fair share of challenges, too.
PLAY THE HELL OUT OF THE CARDS YOU'RE HOLDING
My point is this. We can't control what happens to us, but we can control how we deal with it. Choose your narrative wisely. Develop the courage to use your thoughts and emotions to your full advantage. We need courage to go beyond our past stories and live our lives fully. Take this to heart. There is no need to put restrictions on what's possible. What you focus on expands, so when you begin to celebrate your wins and claim your achievements, you open yourself up to a bigger and brighter future. This doesn't make you immune to pain and suffering, but now you're developing the capacity to handle it with kindness and grace. And like Cheryl Strayed said, 'You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the ones you’re holding.'